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Empathic Sensitivities

Michelle Bellamy

Many of our everyday sayings speak to the energetic shift that takes place as a human being. “Putting yourself in another persons shoes”. Literally, as an empath we can “step in” to a person, into their shoes and feel their physical, mental and emotional states. If we also have healing skill, we can modify those states and help to calm and ease pain. So empaths can feel in their own bodies what is happening in another persons body. Because of this empaths have tremendous compassion for others and their suffering. The ability of an empath to have compassion, to feel and shift other people and heal can lead to burn out for an empath. Empaths often over-give to the point of depletion. There are many tools you should learn as an empath to keep yourself fully charged and in a state in which you are ready able and willing to serve and give to others. In Judith Orloff’s Book, The Empath’s Survival Guide, there is an effective list for safeguarding techniques for empaths. They are: The Mirror Neuron System, Electromagnetic Fields, Emotional Contagion, Increased Dopamine Sensitivity, Synethesia.

Mirror Neurons are a specialized group of brain cells that are responsible for compassion and empathy. Empaths are believed to have both more of these brain cells and more sensitivity than others in the population. They are hyper-sensitive to others pain.

Electromagnetic fields are waves of magnetic electro charge particles that emmenate from and penetrate into our body. These waves are most easily measured from the strongest sources, the brain and the heart. These fields transmit information from one person to the next in the form of coded energy information. It’s like “air-drop”, when you get close enough there is an energy and information exchanged on an energetic level.

Emotional contagion is picking up the energy of a person or group of persons. An example is how if one baby in a nursery begins to cry they will all cry. Empaths are quite sensitive to their physical environment and the people that share that space with them. Due to this empaths must learn how to ground and center themselves to prepare to be in these types of emotionally intense environments. We must also be aware and choose positive people in our lives.

Increased Dopamine Sensitivity-”Research has shown that introverted empaths tend to have a higher sensitivity to dopamine than extraverts. Basically, they need less dopamine to feel happy. That could explain why they are more content with alone time, reading, and meditation and need less external stimulation from parties and other large social gatherings.” Don’t get me wrong, you can have an extroverted empath but they will need to retreat and recover after they are “out in the world”. 

Syethsesia-is a neurological condition when two senses combine for example, hearing music an see color. More specific to abilities of empaths is “mirror-touch synesthesia”, is a neurological condition in which empaths can feel emotions and physical sensations of other people (even at a distance!) in their own bodies as if it were their own experience. This is why it is so important to learn the protection skills necessary to walk the world as a helper, healer or teacher and also an empath. Discernment is key. To have discernment you must be fully centered in WHO YOU ARE. Your energetic signature and how to get there in moments of chaos. Once you are centered you can discern if what you are sensing is your own or someone else. email me for a free meditation to clear your chakras and aura and get centered. You must also learn the skill of removing and detaching others “stuff” out of your field. If you are a healer and an empath you must learn how to let what you are assisting others with to flow through and out of your field, you are not taking on others stuff!!

If you are an empath or know someone who is that needs help, know that I am here to serve and don’t hesitate to connect and ask questions. Your questions lead to new content in my blog and video collection.

Author: Willow Tucker, Empath, Healer and Teacher. Lover of science and nature. Initiating Priestess in the Dianic Wiccan Tradition. www.WillowandtheWand.com

Resources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201703/the-science-behind-empathy-and-empaths

The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Judith Orloff, MD

The Science behind being an Empath

Michelle Bellamy

We have all seen the research on meditating and how what the ancients knew to be true is now being proven by science. But did you know, that science has caught up to the Empath phenomenon?

“…empaths are people who’re high on the empathic spectrum and actually feel what is happening in others in their own bodies. As a result, empaths can have incredible compassion for people—but they often get exhausted from feeling “too much”…” Judith Orloff

“This includes research showing the existence of mirror neurons in the brain, which are said to enable us to read and understand each other’s emotions by filtering them through our own (Iacobani, 2008).” Kirsten Milstead

Research has been conducted by Abigal Marsh with evidence that there is a difference in the brains of empaths as compared to others. Specifically, she researched those that made the most selfless acts, where there was no benefit to them and potentially a cost; donating a kidney. She measured their brain activity while she showed them pictures of different emotional states. What she found is that empaths are exceptionally sensitive to fearful faces. “…there was heightened activity in the amygdalae in their brains. The amygdalae were also eight percent larger than those belonging to members of the control group (normal).” Abigail Marsh author of The Fear Factor (2017).

Interesting to note, she also found the exact opposite of what she found for empaths in psychopaths. Psychopaths were unable to recognize fear in the images shown and were unresponsive to it in general. Also, their amygdalae were about eighteen percent smaller than normal. That is 26% smaller than empaths.

Empaths are characterized as being exceptionally sensitive to their environment and to the emotional, mental and physical states to others, especially those closest to them. They will give to the point of being empty in an attempt to assist or heal others even to the detriment of themselves. Empaths biggest lesson is appropriate boundaries to maintain their own health in order to be of service to others.

“Although they are clearly more sensitive than average to others’ distress, their capacity for compassion and generosity reflects the same neural mechanisms that lie latent in most of humankind. Indeed, it is in part the fact that altruists (empaths) recognize that they are not fundamentally different from anyone else that moves them to act.”

Are Empaths the healers that will bring the earth into a state of loving kindness and compassion?

Is the larger amygdalae a physiological expression of evolution of the brain to save our species?

So many interesting questions!!

What do you think?!

Author: Willow Tucker, Empath, Healer and Teacher. Lover of science and nature. Initiating Priestess in the Dianic Wiccan Tradition. www.WillowandtheWand.com

Resources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201703/the-science-behind-empathy-and-empaths

https://psychcentral.com/blog/new-research-may-support-the-existence-of-empaths/

Batson, C. D. (1991). The altruism question. Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.

Dodgson, L. 2018. The opposite of a psychopath is an ‘empath’—here are the signs you could be one. Business Insider. Retrieved July 22, 2018. http://www.businessinsider.com/am-i-an-empath-2018-1?r=UK&IR=T

Hatfield, E., Cacioppo, J. T. and Rapson, R. L. (1994). Emotional contagion. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.

Iacobani, M. (2008). Mirroring people: the science of empathy and how we connect with others. New York: Farrar, Straus, and Giroux.

Marsh, A. (2017). The fear factor: how one emotion connects altruists, psychopaths & everyone in between. New York: Basic Books.

Marsh, A. (2016). Neural, cognitive, and evolutionary foundations of human altruism. Wiley Interdisciplinary Reviews: Cognitive Science, 7(1), 59-71.

3 Steps to Empath Self-Care

Michelle Bellamy

em·path

ˈempaTH/

noun

 a person or animal with the paranormal ability to apprehend (and feel) the mental, physical or emotional state of another individual.


As an empath I have had to learn how do deal with a lot of the physical symptoms I experience as a result of picking up so much from others and planetary sources. Here are some of the symptoms and ways to navigate as well as remedies that work to reduce the amount of physical pain, fatigue and anxiety.

RESPECT YOUR NATURE CONNECTION

We are all connected to the planet and each other but to what degree do you honor and respect that connection? The earth is a living breathing entity that we communicate with on many levels. One of these levels is electromagnetically. We also feel the movements and changes showered upon us by the planets, most especially the sun and moon. When we respect that connection, lean into it and get into Gaia's rhythm, we discover countless miracles, magic and synchronicities. 

ASTROLOGY IS AN ENERGY FORECAST AND CAN PREPARE YOU FOR WHAT IS COMING

When we are impacted by the planets movements as interpreted through the mystical, mathematical science of Astrology and have a context for the energies we are feeling within our selves, within others and within our earth. These energies enter our planet and all beings first on an electromagnetic level, then our nervous system, then the muscles and bones. Simultaneously it effects our energetic vibration, our unique energy signature, literally tuning us up by shredding useless beliefs and attachments and replacing them with empowering and connected energies. During these upgrades we receive many downloads of energy messages and the tune up can be a bit painful. Like braces, the tightening of the wires and the discomfort as the teeth are pulled into alignment. Resistance to these energetic upgrades by not wanting to let go of these beliefs and attachments only causes more pain and suffering. By letting go of these beliefs and attachments you are only becoming more of who you truly are. Becoming more and more authentic can be scary and fears can surface. It can bring up lots of feelings of un-worthiness.

Empathic Symptoms include:

Head-ache, Migraine, stomach upset, sadness, lethargy, need to stay home and away from public places, extremes of hope and hopelessness for the planet, vision issues, eyes burn, ears ring, begin to hear larger range of sounds than others, become very sensitive to odors, awakening psychic connections, joint pain, vibrating sensations in different parts of the body, dizziness, vertigo, light sensitivity, sound sensitivity, environmental sensitivity, food allergies, and scent allergies, to name a few.

EPIC SELF-CARE

So if you can ground all of this in self-care, in time in nature, rest and self-compassion you will ease your suffering. If you can energetically release what you need to let go of and go with the flow you may even feel amazing!

The energetic frequency has been increasing slowly over time so that we can evolve as a human race into greater connection to one another and to the planet. She is sending out this signal to save herself. As we receive these light signals we need to be in a state of epic self care. We need to be grounded and centered so that we do not fry a circuit. You may receive the message that you need to ground and center when your electronics break or freak out. Also, if you process these upgrades rapidly you can fry your electronics in the process even if you are grounded. 

These high frequency waves are received by our nervous system and stimulate and open us up to greater connection, connections to ancient wisdom, to not repeating past mistakes, greater connection to your higher self, connection to your ancestors, connection with the land(s) and traditions of your ancestors are all ways that dormant DNA is awakened and you remember who you are.

Some people have volunteered to carry higher frequency vibrations like a pillar of light to help initiate others into higher frequencies. These are the healers, the truth speakers, the artists and the teachers.

You can learn to process more of the energy by making a conscious connection to the earth and dedicate to her protection. With her support you can help carry the light, initiate support with guardians and allies who will share the light load with you assisting with the processing of the data through the cells, dna and synapses. If there is a place of shadow or darkness that needs a letting go, the energy load can get stuck there often causing physical pain. Chakra and full body clearings, release of emotions and beliefs are extremely beneficial.

You can get stuck in any layer; physical, emotional, psychic, karmic, ancestral, mental, etc. Assistance from a healer can be extremely helpful and support from a tribe is priceless.

ENERGY REMEDIES

Flu like symptoms of body aches, headache, nausea and fatigue. With or without fever but may have hot or cold sweats. This is caused by the release of thought forms, emotions and more that cause a detoxification. The waste may travel through the blood or digestive system or both. For a time parts of you are not compatible with the new higher frequency cells and the body rejects the old pattern as harmful toxins.

The best remedy is complete rest, if you have someone that can help care for you that is ideal. Remedies include bathing in epsom salts with detoxifying essential oils, lots of lemon water, and flower essences can help the body more gently process the energy change, making the detox less uncomfortable. Drinking most of your meals will help with the detoxification. I make strawberry and banana smoothies with Vegan Vanilla Protein powder. I add in Liquid Light for my minerals and some coconut oil. 

Headaches and migraines, the best thing I have found to deal with these is prevention. Epic self-care, healthy food, staying away from sugar and coffee and drinking lots of clean water. I have finally trained myself to be in touch with my body to such an extent that I can feel the energy shift before I get the headache. If I can remove myself from the stressful situation, center, take flower essences and make sure my boundaries are up to date I can usually avoid it all together. Mine symptoms start as tension around the spine behind my heart and move up. If left to proceed unattended to my neck and occiput will go out of alignment causing extreme headaches and pain in the neck, head, jaw, eye and scalp, usually one-sided. This can last several days and even a chiropractor and massage can barely touch it, it feels like energetic whiplash. Opening the energy in the crown and third eye early on in the process with centering and grounding to earth along with taking flower essences can stop this in its tracks. It is common to have pain in the scalp in a circle where you would find the crown chakra. To me it feels like when I wear my hair in a ponytail and take it out, the roots hurt. Hot soaks in the tub and gentle massage are helpful. Utilizing stones and crystals can be very balancing.

Vertigo and dizziness-your go to should be minerals and water. Your body needs to be rested, hydrated and not under stress to integrate the higher frequencies. Lay down and rest. Stay on your side, curled up in the fetal position with eyes closed and sleep.

Digestive complaints-this is usually associated with detoxification especially revolving around self-care, self-love and negative emotional energies of unworthiness being released. Ties to the mother and ancestors are also connected in the solar plexus, think umbilical cord. Reduce the load on your digestion, drink smoothies, release the inner critic and take flower essences.

Internal Temperature Control issues: Being hot and getting hot flashes can be associated with a large increase of energy being processed. Breathing and bathing and consciously processing the energy will help. Being cold and chilled is a weakened ability to process energy. Movement can be helpful, you need to get the fire gong again by movement and increasing circulation. Acupuncture and flower essences are also great at balancing the internal temperature and regulating energy.

Energy level swings-you can go from complete fatigue and exhaustion to excess energy. Sometimes there are many nights in a row that you may be receiving energy downloads and get very little sleep. Harness this time by having a note pad by your side. Many ideas and solutions can come during the downloads. Rest when you are tired and get shit done when the energy is available. Don't resist or feel guilty when tired. Use this time to read, meditate, write, listen to music, nature watch, spend time with your animals, paint or craft.

Extreme mood swings, anxiety, heart palpitations-as we become more connected to the planet and release the illusion that we are separate we begin to feel others pain more deeply. We weep for the abused, the lost, the forgotten, the raped, the poisoned and all the woes of our world. Then we realize our purpose, we have to make a difference and support each other. We have to stand together, to unite and save Gaia. The best remedy is to feel the feelings and then take action to make a difference. It is the loss of control that makes us feel hopeless. Donate money, donate your time to a charity, go out and make a difference. Flower essences can be very supportive as well. Essential oil of Rose is extremely helpful in processing grief and in heart related symptoms like broken-heart syndrome. Identify your fears, release them. Take deep cleansing breaths. Breath in love, breath out peace. Meditate, do yoga, get out in nature. Move your body.  Email me for a free meditation info@willowandthewand.com.

Electronics, zapping-often healers will zap out tv's computers, phones, cars and more. It most frequently happens to their own property but can also include others in close proximity. Grounding, centering and processing through the energy while taking an electronics break will be helpful. Calibrating to your equipment will also help. Give everything a reboot and check for updates. I usually take this as a sign to slow down, chop wood and carry water. Also, I insure all my electronics through Square Trade;)

Epic Self-Care is the only way that you can stay in touch with your body, emotions and energy field. You need to be grounded and centered on a regular basis so that you can process the energy upgrades as they come. You will begin to become in greater alignment with nature, the planet, the animals and our human family. You will begin to see that love of greed and power are what is poisoning our world and that the illusion of being separate is what needs healing.

By connecting to Gaia and celebrating her nurturing love and support we can find our way back to balance. She provides the air we breathe, the water we drink and the food we eat. She provides our shelter, our companions, beauty and splendor. We must support her as she supports us and if you are empathic then you have been asked to help process the new frequencies and spread them to others. This is a difficult calling, but by staying heart-centered and taking great care of yourself you will be able to be there for others and for the planet.

Willow

The 5 Mistakes of Manifestation (and how to avoid them)

Michelle Bellamy

Manifestation is the act of making clear,    visible, tangible or real.

Manifestation is using the Law of Attraction and your Will to bring something into your reality. It could be money, the right people, the right situation, the right house, health or whatever you feel an emotional connection to. 

Some people are not sure what manifestation is but have heard of the Law of Attraction and use positive affirmations and visualizations to get what they want. Some of you may roll up your sleeves and write out your goals. You might have a dream board (me too). You might even begin to take the action steps needed to get to where your goals are leading. You may be on your way but are not really feeling good about your results or how long it is taking. 

I would love to share my experiences with you to help you avoid some of the manifesting mistakes I have encountered on my way to becoming an epic manifestor. I am absolutely passionate about this topic and I LOVE to help others!!

1. Your affirmations must always be stated in the POSITIVE and in the NOW moment.

Wrong: I don't want stress in my life

Wrong: I want peace in my life

Right: I have peace in my life

If you can't figure out how to say it the Right way, don't worry, I have tips for that in my FREE video. I GET IT!!! I struggled with this too!

2. Your affirmations and visualizations are NOT ALWAYS ENOUGH.

Every morning before you get out of bed you say your affirmation, "I have peace in my life", but as soon as stress meets you (which it will) you fall into it and doubt this whole "manifestation thing". It just doesn't work! There is a reality to deal with! Uh-hem, it actually does work. I have story after story to tell you that I still can't quite believe myself!

So, you did your morning meditation, you said your affirmation and then some jerk sees you waiting for that last parking spot in front of the store with your sick baby in the back seat crying. 

 

He looks you right in the eye and swipes it from you to go get his latte. In the meantime, you have to park far away and remove your sick child from the warm car and walk out in the cold and rain with her to get to the store.

You could have chosen peace over stress in that moment. You always have a choice. You are an active and vital participant in creating your reality. You can't just say it and then think it will happen. (Pro-level manifestors can actually achieve this but it takes a huge paradigm shift, rock solid belief and congruent actions. I will share my experiences in the FREE training with you!)

3. Getting too SPECIFIC can sometimes be a huge block to your manifesting.

Sometimes getting too specific is the biggest mistake you can make, we can limit ourselves. Our ideas and plans are small and limited compared to the truth of what is actually possible. 


4 years ago I wanted to move to horse property. I wanted at least an acre, I wanted it to not cost more than I was currently paying, I wanted a claw foot bath tub and I really, really wanted to live on a lake. I did my work. I wrote it all out. I could not get myself to write down the lake part. It just wasn't possible. I knew we had to live in a radius to my husband's business and there were no lakes in that area. The only lakes around were either too far away or way too expensive. I left it off. I meditated and heard, "No! You are limiting yourself, you can live near water!!" I added it to my manifestation. If I hadn't listened to that guidance, let reality go and trust I would have never have ended up living on a lake front property near my husband's business. This is one of the most amazing manifestation stories and you have not heard a fraction of it!!

4.   NOT RECOGNIZING that your manifestation has showed up or pushing it away because it didn’t fit with your plan. So maybe you used a broad stroke manifestation approach but mentally you still are in a loop of what it should look like. When it shows up you miss it completely.

Another story; I could have completely missed this manifestation. I wanted to raise money quick for a vacation/retirement property. I had great mentors that advised me to use the broad stroke method. I was thinking it would show up in my teaching and healing work, but it didn't. I was encouraged to go back to the corporate world by a friend. I could have totally laughed it off. It was SO off the path I was on. But I had confirmations that it was the right path. So I went for it. 17 months later, I closed escrow. I could have totally missed that, right?? I learned tons from that experience, that I am now teaching to students and clients, it was NOT a cake walk!! BUT, I did call it in, I did manifest it and the property AND learned SO MUCH to share with you now!

5.  You receive the GUIDANCE you need on your path to manifestation but you are:

a) distracted by other things that you think take priority (avoidance).

 
          Magic is Something YOU Make!!

         Magic is Something YOU Make!!

b) you have a fear or belief blocking you from seeing or following your manifestation when it shows up

c) You make excuses as to why you cannot possibly follow that guidance (time and money are usually at the top of this list)

d) You resonate with guidance, feel it in your bones, get signs and synchronicity as confirmation but somehow still push it away and kind of forget about it all the while continuing to complain and focus on your current situation as you trudge through it.

Don't feel bad, we all go through this...me too! Let me show you in my FREE video how to navigate this one. If you have the calling and the guidance but fear or something else is stopping you, you are the ideal person to benefit from what I have already learned!!

Boundaries and the Body

Michelle Bellamy

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We have been dealing with a whopper of REtrograde Planets one of which has been Mars.  We are RE-looking at how we react instead of respond, what actions we jump into especially if it is explaining, defending or projecting. This Reaction/Action merry-go-round is teaching us that as soon as we feel something is off, it probably is and we should speak gently and kindly. This is a boundary. It is a boundary you have with yourself. You do not want to move forward from this point feeling one energy coming towards and hearing words that say another message. When this happens, the person you are talking to is RE-acting instead of responding to the energy they are sensing within you or within themselves. 

We must consistently and continually bring ourselves back to our core of truth and out of reaction. Boundaries showed up in at least one energy wave with parents and/or children.  The ripple effect of our relationships with parents/children goes out into relationships with bosses, friends and lovers, if you thought you may have steered clear of it...you probably cannot, haven't and furthermore should not.

We are always recreating our original wound from a parent or ancestral time line with new relationships to heal the wound and empower and love ourselves more.  Along with these very emotional issues I have seen a multitude of physical issues.  Many involving the skin, mucous membranes, digestion and lungs. These are all soft and sensitive parts of our body that are a boundary for our bodies.  The skin is the biggest organ and if it has become infected or hurt, that is a skin boundary issue. In our lungs and digestion we sort out the harmful from the beneficial with many corresponding issues. If we ate something bad our stomach lets us know and we have a resulting correction to our system that can be unpleasant. Emotionally, we simply may not be able to digest all that is occurring in our lives, with our loved ones and ourselves. Our lung processes incoming toxins as well as grief, the body uses phlegm, coughing, sneezing, crying, laughing and more to clear the lungs of foreign bodies or grief. 

Sound familiar? As we try and RE-live our original emotional wounds in current time to heal them, old physical pain may be brought up to uncover the energetic and emotional origins and heal it.  From my experience with clients, friends and family over this past month, the doctors haven't got a clue, as with most energetic and emotional symptoms.  We resist these painful physical states, and what we resist persists.  I am often asked about the physical states and what needs to be physically done, but what I "get" intuitively is mostly that an energetic or emotional issue needs to be healed.  Remember nothing physical manifests without being pure energy first. Energy is the blue print, so it makes sense to go back to that foundation to heal anything physical. 

Even Dr. Oz would agree!!  "We're beginning now to understand things that we know in our hearts are true but we could never measure. As we get better at understanding how little we know about the body, we begin to realize that the next big frontier in medicine is energy medicine. It's not the mechanistic part of the joints moving. It's not the chemistry of our body. It's understanding for the first time how energy influences how we feel." Dr. Oz.

More on boundaries....  

If you are angry and resentful at someone because they have violated your boundaries or are not taking responsibility and expecting you to here is what you can do; 

Stand in your power, no one can do anything to you, it is always your choice to give your time and energy away, that is YOUR boundary. 

Maintain a healthy energy field, remain centered and clear.

Keeping ourselves, clean, clear, full of love and power is the most healing thing we can do for ourselves and for others.  By harmonic resonance others will feel your uplifting energy and themselves could be uplifted by it, if that is what they choose. 

During this time of reaction/action we may find that relationships and people fall away or move into the background.  If we are not in reaction, it all just feels natural like the way a river flows and breaks into streams.  We all just have our own business and purpose to attend to and if we are in our truth and power we will know that we have to be focused and centered to thrive.  If we are in reaction, these endings could be really dramatic or if the other party is in reaction it will be also and you need to hold clear boundaries and loving compassion. There could be a sudden deep healing in the relationship or an end.  Or an end to the way that relationship operated and a new beautiful relationship with the same person.  The choice is yours and theirs, independently of each other.  What will you choose?  Happiness is an inside job.

Be Well,

Willow Tucker

www.WillowandtheWand.com